Here’s something that almost made me cry – toys on the verge of destruction.
Big Boys Cry. Photo from Cosmopolitan
Yeah, that scene from Toy Story 3 when Woody and his pals already accepted their demise. And then once more was when Andy played with his toys for the last time and gave them away. I mean, all men can relate to that. It’s just so hard to let go of your, um, action figures.
Remember the moment when you received a test sheet, scanned the rest of it and found it to be too long. After you’re done with it, you can already publish it as a book. Just looking ahead of that very long boring test, your eyes could water on its own because like it or not, you have to go through with it.
A guy in the name of Rob Dyrdek spent $700 Million on lottery tickets (paid in cash), on which the jackpot prize was $356 Million. The draw came, numbers arise, and surprise him. He lost. Nobody won on that draw. Talk about slap on the face, that’s worth crying to.
Men are taught to not show their weak emotions. Part of masculinity is to hold back tears, an attribute women typically exhibit. So to be a man is to be not a woman. Though, it doesn’t mean that men, over the years, have lost emotions. Men have estrogen as well. It’s undeniable; but denying it is expected of men.
Big boys cry, perhaps not in public but there are instances that can make them cry. Loosing a game of their favorite sports team could do the trick, but also try taking something they treasure so much, be it family, friends, or lunch. Ideally, breaking up with a girl too.
We all have our own story, isn’t it? Actually, there is one thing that can burst me every time. It’s a very horrible experience; I’d want to forget about it; I’d want to get over it; I’d want it to mean nothing. But it just always make me cry – peeling onions.
Remember this episode in friends, where Monica tried to tear up her beau Chandler?
When was the last time you cried or made your man cry?
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My hubby almost tears up when he listens to Bruce Springsteen ….. When Clarence Clemmons died I thought I saw him well up a little. That’s about it.
Bruce Springsteen is the man, really, he sings in a way that tickle a man’s heart. I can relate to that too:D
Onions, yes they always get to me too, darn it all just when I thought I had it all together those onions have such a way about them don’t they!
I know! We should try that diving mask, covers the nose and eyes while dealing with onions.
.I cried on Wednesday when my feet’s was aching so much that I had to stop dancing my Zumba. Just feed up with being a victim.
Have a foot massage haha, heaven! I can have body massage every week if I can 🙂 That’ll clear any tears
i actually respect a man who can show all emotion, including crying
Really? Part of the reason why we try hard to appear so masculine is for gals
well i guess i m different. i like a strong man, but i like a man who can show emotions also
that could be a conflicting combination, for men
maybe, it depends what era you were brought up in
perhaps, I know what you mean
Great friends clip! My man doesn’t cry! I have to get him Chicken Soup For the Soul, too.
Haha, try the “Monica way” too 😀
I read an article on Cracked the other day that discussed how older cultures viewed men crying much differently than ours does. If you read all the great epics like the Iliad, the Odyssey, and Beowulf, the uber manly heroes always have a weeping scene.
Cracked is a humor site but the backed it up with research, I like that site! Well, you’re right. In the epics, heroes weep bigtime; and how can we judge them, they’ve been in wars and confronted Gods. Again, it’s society’s dictation
This whole real man don’t cry seems rather stupid and outdated to me. Hopefully it is all changing.
That’s exactly what is circulating in the minds of emerging adult men. They are conditioned that way – suppress your emotions, be a man.
I love that scene in Toy Story 3… quite sad when the little girl finds that last, special toy in the box.
True. Finally, someone can relate to my Toy Story experience! We’re cool Jimmy
I see my fiance cry too often. It’s because of the nature of our relationship – I live in Australia, he lives in the States. We see each other once every 6-9 months depending on his deployments and when I can get leave. We are so connected and so passionate that being apart for so long is something we feel so deeply (though me more than him obviously). But sometimes, some days, it gets too much and I see him cry.
I must say, to see the man I adore, the man I look to for strength and protection (in a strange outdated way though I am terribly independent and pig-headed), to see him cry breaks me. I immediately want to fix the whole world, I feel I need to stand up and be the strong one and help him see that everything will be perfect in the end. It makes me realise that when I cry, just how hard it must be on him to watch (being on other sides of the world means we can’t even hold each other for comfort!). I try to learn from this and endeavour to be stronger for him, for us as we get through some tough times, because seeing someone you love hurting is truly devastating.
I don’t think men shouldn’t cry, but when they do, it is such an overwhelming emotion for me, it really speaks to the situation (unless they are crying over a movie or onions of course 😛 ). It’s almost earth shattering, bringing into focus truly what is important – maybe because it is such a rare thing to see a man do, it has so much more power than a girl having a sob (though it does get us out of more traffic tickets than I think it would a guy)!
You’ve said it right, crying is rare for men. But when they do, it’s shattering, the emotion is pure and serious. I can see how you two desired each other so much. Being worlds apart is hard, but you’ll figure that out 😀 Thank you for sharing.
There are some things that are just worth working for – it’s cliche etc etc but we know we are meant to be with each other and the passion and depth of emotion is so strong! It doesn’t happen a lot, and he’s a hard, tough, tattooed, pierced military man, but when he does cry, WHOA! Thanks for replying and the thought provoking post!
I only have to hear the right piece of music and tears will start to well in my eyes LOL
There are a limited bands that could, *possibly, tear me up. Bruce Springsteen and Coldplay for me, what’s for you?
Time To Say Goodbye, the theme to Saving Private Ryan and Into The West from Return Of The King… *sniffle*
Crying is a natural emotion that nobody should suppress I cry from time to time and feel so much better after and have a better view on what I was crying about
There are some great studies on crying and the release of hormones after a big cry – it’s definitely beneficial, it’s a release of tension, stress, and you do feel better after and your mind is clearer. I think some men maybe need to let themselves cry a bit more. I know that some days having a good cry is all I need to get myself back on track and focused again to deal with whatever stuff was stressing me out. I am a sook, I know I cry too much and too easily, but tell you what, once I’ve had my sook I get straight back to it and fix whatever it is that was wrong e.g. having a break down about my car needing a whole new headlight (not just the lamp) immediately to pass rego before it expired the next day – felt stressed, had a cry, then sourced the part and replaced it myself to get it back to the roads people to be passed at inspection! Still, I probably cry a bit too much 😛
I’d be repeating it again but it’s a thing of society. Men don’t want to be called a wuss, yeah? I think crying is confronting your emotions, it’s rather bold than running away from it
Lovely narration…and most I liked is the name of your blog “Moment Matters”…how deep its meaning is:-)
Thanks! Your kind words are appreciated 😀
My man cries when he sees someone he loves crying. And when he watches old black and white movies – though he tries to make sure I don’t notice that.
It’s embarrassing for someone to see you cry, you know. Even if that someone is a loved one 😀
I think you stirred some emotion. I teared up today telling a story to a classroom of firefighters. It happens.
It does. Someday, I’d want to talk to firefighters too, like I’d want to have a conversation with a soldier
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I really get more emotional when I see men and boys cry.
My kind of rule of thumb is that, anyone who has seen E.T and not choked up is a sociopath waiting to happen.